Dear Diary, Here I Give You a Break-Up Letter of Sorts

WRITER’S BLOCK: a never-ending story littered in excuses and various appeals. I’ve spent the past few months doing what I’ve always done: asking people to help fix this. Give me solutions and easily applicable tonics, serums, elixirs and pomades. Metaphor after metaphor and still not a word.


My mom used to tell me to write about everything/ write everything down. A perfectionist, I taught myself to only write down or at least consider writing down anything that I could craft into what I considered a “passable”(see: meticulously dense/poetic/ adjectives) sentence. And now I’m starting to think: maybe I’ve missed out on my life because I didn’t think it was important enough, that my observations weren’t special or nuances enough, that the fucking sky wasn’t blue or black enough. Well… fuck enough!

Nothing has to be special or good. I decided that I’m breaking up with writer’s block, which is actually ok for more than just the fact that I can get back to the serious business of expression (I used to be happy when I wrote something? I thought that maybe it was good???) but because a break up gets to be messy.

So maybe I should start with the first thing. Breaking up with this feeling that I can’t write. Because that’s really it: I feel my hand clench into a fist or like my fingers don’t know where to fall in relation to each other on the keyboard and I am holding back from deleting everything this very second…

“It’s ok if your writing is shit” I keep telling myself. “It’s ok for now” I remind myself.

I feel like I’ve gone into a time machine and I have reverted to my former teenager writer self, excep I have my current opinions and sensibilities which creates a somewhat hilarious clash. It would be a patent lie to deny that my teenage self thought she had my opinions and sensibilities. And for that, I guess I have to hug my selves.  This is more than just breaking up with my writer’s block (rather, I’ve decided, there is no other choice. Either I do this now or I risk doing what I’ve always said I hate and stagnate into a swamp of talktalktalk and no praxis… I will not be Artex, goddamnit!)

What I have really come to hate the most about writer’s block is the unrelenting feeling that I am a hypocrite. How can anyone ask my opinion on anything they do what I can’t even do what I thought of as the only viable skill in my repertoire? And this feeling is nagging in the same way that a bad habit is: you know you can do something about it, but whatever right? Really easy to brush off because you’ll get to it anyway. Procrastination is writer’s block’s favorite fuck buddy and after that nothing need occur as they embrace each other and smoke your lungs and mind into rot.

I’m not buying it anymore, so in a moment of intensified narcissism, I present to you: Stories of My Recent Life.

It’s been really cold these days which means everyone is sneezing and coughing (seriously, the other day I thought a woman was going to collapse next to me or at the very least cough herself into a vomiting spell). Nobody want to go to work and everyone’s muscles ache and oh-have-you-heard-so-and-so’s-on-a-new-diet and check-out-this-insanely-rigorous-workout-regimen. All fo that good old-fashioned nonsense. I started to read and article about how women are more likely than men to trust (Believe) in their horoscopes because they’ve internalized the sexist myth that they, as female beings, have no control over their lives and as such we should bank on the stars because it’s an ancient practice. My commitment to reading the whole article was exhausted by the third paragraph as the voice in my head shouted “BUT WHO AM I TO ARGUE WITH THE STARS?!”

It’s been cold enough and polluted enough and I’ve been tired enough to not see stars. So where are they? If they want to fight I ask them to please present themselves to me (and I’m sure they know I’m the one hiding, and in turn blaming them for my woes).


Mother’s Day

I get weird about holidays about celebrating an important figure in your life, like Moms, because it kind of implies that you don’t do that any other day of the year. Ok, not kind of. It just does. Same thing with Women’s History Month. But that’s another post with even more things that annoy me along with the fact that health insurance is more expensive for women, that pregnancy is considered a pre-existing condition, that so many women die from complications with their pregnancy. Fucking Kansas or the “Welcome Ladies! You might as well lock yourself in a room or die!” State.

But, just real quick before I go cook up salmon for my Mamita.

If you care about women, about you mother, any mother, about the people responisble for that whole birth thing fight for choice.

Here are a few reasons I love my mom:

She raised me as a feminist and let me grow up to be a feminist with lots of views, even if we disagreed on a few points.

She made sure I understood that there’s nothing better than being yourself.

She taught me two languages and she loved my awesome Dad and my sister and me and herself.


She worked really hard to teach me that it’s ok to tell people to stay the fuck out of your bubble.

She and my Dad made us aware of the intersections of all structures. And how that’s something we need to fight daily. We need to see each Other and not just focus on the narratives of the dominant who are constructed as invisible, or on the visibility of only a slice of the voiceless, and not just acknowledge one aspect of a scary ideological machine.

I love my mom and all of the other mothers I’ve been around. But what I really really love is being raised where I always knew that I had a choice about my body. And I don’t want to have a child, a daughter, who is not going to have that growing up, when she grows up, and when or if she decides to be a mom.



P.S. need to create a cool card for your feminist mom?