Ok, so I know that everyone has had it with arguing about the Daniel Tosh incident. But let’s just look over a few quick points:
1.) PEOPLE ARE PISSED. This is s good thing. Earnest discussion is like, well, kind of the best.
2.) WHEN SOME JERK SAYS SOMETHING LIKE “WELL, SHE SHOULD HAVE KNOWN BETTER” or “COMDEY IS ART! I”M BEING OPPRESSED” and ” SHE WASN’T THAT OFFENDED IF SHE ACCEPTED TICKETS!” you get to smile and say this:
“When you try to reduce the issue to a question of “well if you don’t like it, don’t put yourself in that situation” you recreate what people tell rape victims all of the damn time. The question of freedom to say things in not in jeopardy.”Art” is not in fucking jeopardy. Hopefully what’s in jeopardy is bad jokes. Because you can make a good joke about something if you structure in a way that highlights why a normative attitude about your subject is problematic. Which is not what this guy is capable of. Like, at all. And by the way– there is such a thing as shock. And there is such a thing as wanting to be reimbursed in a transaction if you feel like the product wasn’t up to par. So this whole thing about the tickets and accepting them being some sign of not being that offended is really absurd. Also, she was offended by Tosh not the establishment itself.”
and then breathe, because you’re going to have to get into the nitty-gritty of how rape culture is a thing and people have a really hard time (like they might want to shoot you or fart and scream and vomit all over themselves kind of hard time) when you call them out and inform them about things like ideology and all sorts of crazy structures they’ve internalized. People don’t like being told that their special snowflakeness is in fact, formed and not really special or snowflakey. All you can do is try to not grid your teeth into your gums in frustration and breathe and yes, it will be hard so maybe consider having a team. This process if going to be something like a “FEMTERVENTION” in which you educate about some serious feminism because friends don’t let friends stay ignorant. Kisses and good luck!
3.) Now we have verifiable proof that that dude is not and has never been funny. Hallelujah!
4.) The bad news is we still have a lot of work to do! But, I’m hoping we got in the bag.